Once a week, my sister-in-law comes over to spend the entire day with me and Collin. She does this for 2 reasons: 1--to spend time with Collin to make sure that she continues to be his favorite aunt :) and 2--to allow me to get caught up on housework. If you are not a stay-at-home-mom you might be thinking...you stay home all day, how is your house not clean? Well, let me explain. When there's laundry to do or dishes to clean, I usually have a little boy that is giggling and bringing me puzzles, books, and Star Wars action figures to play with. I would much rather spend my time doing that than housework. And when my little man sleeps...this mama is exhausted!! So I usually lounge around until he wakes up, ready to play and explore. So...the housework tends to be forgotten..as it should be! Perhaps now you are saying, well why doesn't your husband do it? Well...when my hubby gets home, I want him to play with us and visit with us for the remainder of the evening. Again, the housework can wait :)
So I am very lucky that I get once a week to get everything back in order. But my village is more than just this! Mark and I try to make sure we have a date night once a week. Sometimes we go out, sometimes we stay in. And when we need a babysitter, there is never a shortage of people who want to take and play with Collin. And I think this is fabulous. Collin has so many people who love and care for him. And because of that, Mark and I can continue to tend to our relationship and make sure we are meeting each others' needs. We firmly believe that we need to have a healthy, strong marriage and a healthy physical and emotional connection in order to be great parents for Collin.
But our village doesn't end there. Sometimes, I need a rest..to nap, to get my hair cut, to grocery shop, to work out. And when I need this, Mark's mom and dad are always there (Mine would be in a heart beat but they live 5+ hours away).
And my parents, who live 5+ hours away, are always making sure Collin has fun toys/books/goodies whenever they get the chance. And when they come to visit, it's Collin time, 24/7! They LOVE skyping with him. My dad insists on getting a picture text every day :) And my mom lived with us Collin's first month of life doing our laundry, fixing our meals, and making sure all we had to do was love, cuddle and get to know this little man! And she's always there to offer advice and help. I probably call my mom 2 or 3 times a day..at least!! I mean, she raised 5 kids, the woman knows her stuff!!
Lastly, there are my friends who have invested so much love and interest in Collin--making sure to stop by and visit with him and bring him books --> (I have a friend that I'm pretty sure has decided it's her job to buy Collin every scholastic book in the world).
I know there are moms who have to do all this without anyone's help. I mean, my mom had 5 kids, my dad was in the Navy and we lived 18+ hours away from any of her family. But she did end up fostering her own village of Navy wives to help out when the men were out to sea. But there are moms who don't have this opportunity to have a village..and to you, mommas, I say "wow...you are amazing and strong."
I know that I am blessed and I thank God every night for each of these people in our lives. I am definitely not Super Mom..but that's okay with me because I know I am a super mom (ha..did you like my play on words there? *geek*). I saw a quote once that said "There is no way to be a perfect mom. But there are a million ways to be a good one." So I guess I am just saying that, whether you are your own village or whether you have a village like mine or something completely different, if you and your family are happy and it works for you, then pat yourself on the back, because you are doing a stand-up job!
Ok, thanks for listening to my rambles...














































